As kind and thoughtful as you hope to be towards your children during a divorce, it is next to impossible not to cause them to feel a slice of angst, guilt or straightforward pain.
Their anguish doesn’t disappear as soon as the divorce is over either, there is an adjustment period to get through and that can be as long as the proverbial length of string.
If you try to justify your actions towards your ex to them, it can have a completely negative effect. Their age and maturity has nothing to do with their ability to process it either, it might simply be that they are fed up with the whole situation and sick of standing in your windtunnel with your divorce.
Let’s face it, you can’t blame them, you cannot blame them at all.
All you can do is try to be guided by them, treating them always with love, respect and as much open honesty as you feel you need to apply to their delicate ears.
Whatever you do decide to do, be prepared to be damned if you do and damned if you don’t; time heals.