Consider your married years as an apprenticeship to finding the real you and uncovering your full potential.
I often think that the troubles we experience during divorce are so unique and sometimes so devastating, it might be easier to scoop the entire event up and file it under, ‘Forget the lot!’
But if we do that, we run the risk of forgetting some of our great awakenings too. Everyone we interact with, including our ex, has an influence on us, even the blooming solicitor you’re using does too.
Take the good bits from your history and from the tumultuous period known as divorce and acknowledge the rough bits and build upon them until you find a newly sculpted you, then roll out all of that freshly discovered potential.