Despite the way it may feel at times, a divorce is only ever two people wide.
Some friends, and more frequently relatives, may try to make your divorce all about them – how they feel and what your actions have done to them. One divorcee I know is frequently berated by his mother because she doesn’t see his children any more. She never imagines the hurt she causes when lashing out like this reminds him that he doesn’t see them either.
Try to reserve your energy to cope with necessary responses to your situation, as opposed to justifying or clarifying yourself to the array of onlookers who seem to delight themselves in your fueling the fire of your angst, also commonly known as ‘The They’.