I have first-hand experience of the oppressive guilt that flows through your veins after causing a fissure in the family unit.
The consequences of a break up are awful; for children, they can be devastating.
If you are in the thick of it right now, it might feel impossible to imagine any similitude of normal family life returning. Trust me, eventually the dust will settle, tempers will cool and the water will run calm once more.
Is there anything you can do to make that happen quicker? Perhaps, but you must hold onto the fact that your children will heal at their own pace, there’s not a prescriptive time for that to happen.
It can help if you treat your children much the same as you did before the break up; do your best to keep their structural framework in place in terms of bedtime, stick to preparing many of their favourite foods, watch movies together that you know give them a happy buzz and do your level best not to throw too many new things into their mix.
Sometimes, all you can do is pour love over them, that’s good therapy all round.