Whether you’re 5 minutes past separation from your old spouse, knee-deep in divorce or 5 years the other side of your Decree Absolute, when it comes to dealing with an vexing ex, you’ll do well to apply a liberal sprinkling of patience.
Trouble is, that’s far easier said than done.
There are limited things that enable aggravated patience levels to decrease; a dogged determination to rise above their pathetic behaviour so they don’t bother you any more and the simple passage of time being two good examples.
Here’s a simple tip to help you see your progress in this regard. Find an inexpensive notebook and divide each page into 3 columns. Each time they rack you off draw a little line in the first column, put the date in the second column and write approximately how many minutes you were riled for during this particular episode. In the third column, write what you wish you’d used those minutes to do (visit a friend, take a bath, wander through a garden etc).
In time, column 3 will become a great suggestion box for preparing to deal with the next time you need to draw a line; eventually, you’ll draw the final line and let go of the angst.