As soon as you have made the decision to proceed with a divorce, previously significant dates change colour and feel a little strange, mostly because you’re not sure how you are supposed to feel about them.
The birthday of your ex is a good example. What do you do? Send a card, don’t send a card; to be honest, that’s an easy one to deal with by comparison to your wedding anniversary.
Whether you spent a year together or three decades or more, that date signifies the day you promised to work real hard at giving marriage your best shot for life and for whatever reason, things went a bit wrong.
Personally, I haven’t managed to find the right mix of emotions to get through the day emotionally unscathed and hey, I’m the gal that hands out the sage advice!
I think perhaps the best we can do on that day is to let it wash over us and to remember not to line up trouble by setting too many expectations in that 24 hours.