Yet, it is precisely the opposite. It’s not weird at all. It’s human. It’s your brain on divorce, and there’s significant scientific research to show that it is virtually unavoidable. The trick is to learn how to recognize it and manage the experience in a healthy way.
So what’s happening? Basically, emotion is stronger than thought. Our minds process extreme threats, whether physical or emotional, in the same way.
It doesn’t matter if we’re face-to-face with an angry grizzly or a former spouse, our fight or flight mechanism kicks in. It’s a very primitive response that comes from one of the deepest parts of our brains, the amygdalae. That’s the place where many of our